Help Responding to Custody Allegations

The goal is not to “win the argument.” The goal is to be credible: calm tone, dated facts, and a child-focused solution. Educational only — not legal advice.

The 4-part framework (don’t skip this)

  1. Allegation: quote/summarize in 1–2 lines.
  2. Response: dates + specifics (no labels).
  3. Proof: reference neutral exhibits.
  4. Child-focused request: practical next step (stability, routines, logistics).

Copy/paste response skeleton

ALLEGATION: [Copy the allegation in 1–2 lines]

RESPONSE (facts only):
- Date/time: [YYYY-MM-DD, time if known]
- What happened: [neutral description]
- What I did next: [neutral description]

CHILD IMPACT (if relevant):
- [missed school / schedule disruption / medical / routine]

PROOF / EXHIBITS:
- Exhibit A: [message screenshot / calendar / school note]

CHILD-FOCUSED REQUEST (brief):
- [specific, practical request focused on stability/safety/routines]

If you feel angry while writing, pause for 10 minutes. Edit for neutrality. Credibility wins.

Tone checklist

  • Replace “always/never” with dates and counts where possible.
  • Remove insults, diagnoses, speculation, sarcasm.
  • Keep each issue separated (one allegation → one response).
  • Use headings and short paragraphs (skimmable).

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Disclaimer: MyCustodyCoach is not a law firm and does not provide legal advice. Information is for educational purposes only. For legal advice, consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.