Evidence That Matters Most in High‑Conflict Custody
Courts prioritize evidence that is specific, objective, and linked to your child’s wellbeing. Focus on patterns, dates, and child outcomes instead of accusations. Not legal advice.
Q&A
What’s weak evidence?
Vague statements, name‑calling, and long text dumps without dates or ordering. Avoid conclusions; provide time‑stamped facts.
What about recordings?
Surreptitious recordings may be illegal and/or inadmissible in your jurisdiction. Get legal advice before recording. Prefer written confirmations and third‑party logs.
How to
Document patterns, not one‑offs
Maintain a log of dates, times, and short factual notes (missed exchanges, late pickups, school attendance). Patterns carry more weight than isolated incidents.
Use neutral corroboration
Whenever possible, support entries with neutral sources (attendance records, calendar invites, emails with school/health providers).
Link facts to child impact
For each pattern, write a one‑sentence impact (e.g., “Three late pickups caused our child to miss the first 15 minutes of class on 2 days/week”).
Organize exhibits clearly
Group messages by topic/date. Title each section (e.g., “Exchange logistics — Jan–Mar”), and include a simple index so a reader can skim quickly.
Related
Accuracy & sources
Last reviewed: 2026-01-15. Educational only — not legal advice.
- Cornell LII — Evidence (overview) — Plain‑language overview of evidence concepts (varies by state).
- AFCC — Practice Guidelines — Professional resources; focus on child‑first documentation and clarity.
- USA.gov — State Courts — Find official self‑help materials for your state.
External links are provided for educational purposes only. MyCustodyCoach is not a law firm and does not provide legal advice. Always verify current requirements with official court resources or licensed counsel.