What does “best interests of the child” mean in custody cases?

It’s the legal standard courts use to decide custody and parenting time. The exact factors vary by state, but common themes include safety, stability, routines, school/medical needs, and the ability to support the child’s relationship with each parent (when safe).

How should I write to best-interest factors without sounding emotional?

Use an evidence-first structure: (1) short child-focused goal, (2) dated facts, (3) child impact, (4) proof references, and (5) a practical request. Avoid speculation and labels.

Is this legal advice?

No. MyCustodyCoach is not a law firm and does not provide legal advice. This information is educational and you should confirm requirements with official court resources or licensed counsel in your state.

Best Interests of the Child Factors (Plain‑English Guide)

This page is for “best interests factors” panic searches. It gives you a calm, evidence‑first way to write to the factors courts use — without turning your draft into accusations. Educational only — not legal advice.

The simple rule: write to outcomes, not character

Courts usually care less about labels (“controlling,” “narcissist,” “lazy”) and more about child outcomes: safety, stability, school routines, medical needs, and reduced conflict.

Common factor themes (most states)

Safety (including domestic violence concerns)
Stability and consistent routines
School/medical support
Ability to cooperate and communicate (when safe)
History of caregiving and meeting daily needs
Child’s adjustment to home/school/community

How to write to a factor (copy this)

Goal: “The child needs predictable school-night routines.”
Dated facts: “Between 2025‑09‑01 and 2025‑10‑15, bedtime was delayed 9 times after late exchanges…”
Child impact: “Late nights led to missed morning tutoring.”
Proof: “Exhibit A: messages; Exhibit B: tutoring schedule.”
Request: “School-day exchanges at school + 24‑hour confirmation.”

What to gather (fast)

A 1‑page timeline (dates only)
A simple missed/late exchange log (counts + averages)
School/medical highlights (not a document dump)
3–5 key message excerpts that show patterns (with dates)

Related (most-used templates)

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Trusted starting points (official / reputable)

USA.gov — State courts:
https://www.usa.gov/state-courts
AFCC — Practice resources:
https://www.afccnet.org/
APA — Child custody evaluation guidelines:
https://www.apa.org/practice/guidelines/child-custody

Last reviewed: 2026-01-15. Disclaimer: MyCustodyCoach is not a law firm and does not provide legal advice. Information is for educational purposes only.